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Wise To Ask A Friend?

Is it wise to ask a friend or relative to perform you wedding cerermony?

In The New York Times and other media I have read about marriages performed by a friend or relative of the bride and groom. Rather than retain a professional officiant to perform a wedding ceremony, some couples decide that it’s more chic to give an inexperienced person the honor. However, there is an old adage, “You get what you pay for!”

After a few decades of performing weddings in a professional capacity, I have my own perspective on this trend. Some may feel my qualifications give me a slanted viewpoint, but the reality is that I have a unique vantage point for assessing the risks involved in having a friend or relative perform the most meaningful ceremony two people in love will share in their lifetime.

I ask married friends if they still keep in touch with the bridesmaids and groomsmen in their wedding party.It’s fascinating: Most admit that they do not have contact with any of their wedding party. The best m…